How to Make a Man Obsessed With You

How to Make a Man Obsessed With You

How to Make a Man Obsessed with You

So, you want to make a man obsessed with you?  Well, you'd better be careful what you wish for!

Of course, we all secretly want to be worshiped by a man we adore.  It's a wonderful feeling to being truly, deeply loved by a guy that appreciates you for exactly who you are.

So, how do you get your man to think about nothing but you all day?

I've put together some of the things you can do that have been proven to influence the male mind.  I promise you that if you follow the advice in this article you'll drastically improve your chances of driving him crazy about you.

The Psychology of Love

If you want to make a man obsessed with you it will help to understand the psychology of love.  Behavioral psychology has proven beyond doubt that all our emotions (fear, jealousy, anxiety etc.) can all be influenced by psychological triggers.  

You too can learn how to use mind-control techniques to influence the behavior of other people, including prospective lovers.

You may have been conditioned to believe that love is “fate” or that it “just happens” or that “it’s destiny” and all your stars have to be aligned.

However, the reality is far different – there’s actually a science behind love – and with this secret knowledge, you can use the psychology of love to make any man consider you as a potential lover… even make a man obsessed with you!

Everyone has a unique mental template of what they want in a lover...

it’s like a checklist of attributes and characteristics that you are looking for in a mate.

It’s hidden deep in your subconscious and it was developed unconsciously over time by your value/belief system, sexual experiences, previous relationships etc.  

Your challenge is to use psychology to make your man believe that you tick the boxes on his checklist for his perfect partner.

The Psychology of Love

The Psychology of Love

Of course, I can’t guarantee that these psychological tactics will work but they will definitely increase the chances of him falling in love with you.  

Also, don’t dismiss these tips as being “manipulative” – wearing make-up, push-up bras or using flattering profile photos can be far more manipulative or deceptive than the advice I’m going to suggest here.

Consider this, if you could triple your chances at making someone genuinely fall in love with you, why wouldn’t you try?

How do I Make a Man Obsessed With Me?

If you want to make a man obsessed with you then follow this advice…

Make a man obsessed with you

Why is a Smile so Attractive?

No surprise, science has proven that a genuine smile increases your attractiveness to the opposite sex.

Typically, men are innately attracted to specific characteristics of the opposite sex and a smiling female face is near the top of the list.

Interestingly, a recent Canadian study, involving 1,084 heterosexual men and women, concluded that women find smiling men less attractive than men who put on a dark, brooding or swaggering look.  However, men were proven to find women who smiled more attractive.

There’s no doubt that a woman’s eye contact and warm smile are potent sexual arousal weapons.  Therefore, don’t hesitate to flash him those pearly whites to nudge him closer to being obsessed with you!

Why a Smile is Attractive

Why a Smile is Attractive

Mirroring Technique

Mirroring is a proven psychological tactic that has been used by body language experts for years.  When performed correctly mirroring is a highly effective psychological trigger that subconsciously makes the person that you are mirroring see you as compatible with them.  This can be a significant step towards a man finding you much more attractive.

To ‘Mirror’ someone is to copy their actions in a subtle, responsive way; if he smiles, you smile; if he sips his drink, you sip your drink etc.

Walking at the pace as him is another way to show him you’re in sync.  If you notice that your guy’s pace slows down then this is a sign that he’s really starting to fall for you.

Mimicking his body language will make him believe that the two of you are on the same wavelength.  This is a powerful psychological technique that will force him to feel attracted to you.

Mirroring Technique

Use the Mirroring Technique

Flirting Body Language

Research shows that 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% through vocal communication, and 55% through non-verbal communication like facial expressions, gestures, posture etc.

Consequently, the most powerful signals that you can send are through your body language.  Obviously, this doesn't mean that you should display your breasts, legs, bottom and neck in an outrageous or salacious manner. Men respond to a flirt, not dirt!  Be classy, be subtle.

Sitting up straight, or leaning back slightly, will both make you seem more confident and show off your most appealing assets.  

When standing, arching your back and throwing back your shoulders will help make your butt look awesome - especially if you wear heels as they automatically put your body in the right shape.

Flirty Body Language

Use Flirty Body Language

Hair is often one of the parts of the body that men find most attractive, and it can be a powerful tool in flirting.  Twirling a strand of hair or flicking your hair away from your neck or even running your fingers through your hair or flipping your hair lightly... all these non-verbal communication techniques are strong signals that influence the male's subconscious mind in a sexually arousing way.

You can display a powerful sexual confidence in the way you use body language - so why not use it to your advantage?

Red Dress Effect

A recent City University of New York study found that wearing red made women more attractive to men.  

“Recent evidence suggests that coloration may serve a purpose in human mating, as female sexual excitement is associated with reddening of the cheeks, neck, and chest.”
Steven G Young, European Journal of Social Psychology.

FACT:  Men are more attracted to women in red.

Red accessories such as lipstick, high heels, scarves, purses etc. are all considered sexier than any other color.  

So, consider leaving your little black dress hanging in your wardrobe if you really want to get your guy’s motor running.

It’s a fact that, if a guy likes you, when you wear a red dress he’ll LOVE you!

The Red Dress Effect

Use The Red Dress Effect

Be Mysterious to Him

Men love women to be mysterious.  Research has repeatedly proven that men respond to women that are mysterious, unattainable or seemly uninterested.

Your typical male loves a challenge.

Men are likely to chase a woman who plays hard to get, acts vaguely when it comes to emotions or one who could even be considered out of his league.

So, never let a man know your deepest darkest secrets (until that ring is on your finger of course).

At the beginning of the relationship keep your conversations flirtatious, casual, and non-specific.

Allow him to use his imagination to paint a picture of you in his mind.

Be Mysterious to Him

Be Mysterious to Him

Avoid talking about your life story, fears, dreams, and goals.  Tease him by very slowly revealing secrets about you and leave him craving for more.

Adrenaline and Attraction

Studies prove that there is a strong link between sexual arousal and excitement such as fear or anxiety (Donald Dutton and Arthur Aron 1947).

It has long been recognized that when people share a scary experience that they bond emotionally. 

Therefore, if you want your guy to feel attracted to you, you need to take him out of his comfort zone and put some adventure into his life!

Plan a date at an amusement park, or take him skydiving to get his adrenaline pumping.  Natural chemicals will be released into his brain that will make him wonder why he’s always having such a blast when he’s with you!

And you know what that will lead to?  Instant attraction!

Adenaline & Attraction

Adrenaline causes Attraction!

Physical Warmth = Interpersonal Warmth

Research by Yale psychologist, John Bargh, concludes that part of our attraction to others is linked to temperature.

For example, holding a warm or cold beverage can influence your judgment of other people.

Therefore, if you are holding a warm beverage you are more likely to view those with you as having warm personalities.

So, if you are going on a date make it a warm place with a warm meal or drink.

Also, whenever you get the opportunity, get as close to your prospective lover as possible.

Remember, close proximity encourages affection and touching is a definite turn on (we all love to cuddle, right?).

Physical Warmth Equals Interpersonal Warmth

Physical Warmth = Interpersonal Warmth

Mutual Friends

Statistically, you are much more likely to fall in love if you and your guy have mutual friends.  That’s because, subconsciously, we are all wired to trust people that can be vouched for by people we trust.

Try to get introduced to a man you like by a mutual friend or, better still, go on a double date with a couple of friends because your guy will feel more trustworthy and psychologically view you two as a couple.

It will also provide you with an opportunity to show your guy what a nice person you are – you need for your guy to see this trait in order to fall in love with you – so any time you can show him how kind you are, do it.

If he sees you do something kind, or if he hears a story from another person talking about how nice you are, he will be much more likely to feel affection for you. 

Mutual Friends

Mutual Friends

Also, if a guy is looking to settle down he’s looking for someone who will be loving and nurturing, so talk about how much you care for others, especially children or animals.   But don’t scare him off by coming across as desperate for an instant family or a crazy cat lady.

Equity Theory of Love

You may have heard men say about their partners “She completes me” or “She makes me ‘whole'” etc.  Psychologists call this the Equity Theory at work.

The behavioral psychologist J. Stacy Adams (1963) discovered that in any relationship people value other people by what they are “bringing to the table” and what their contribution is to the relationship.  

For example, guys are attracted to girls who fill a void that’s missing in their life.  Men are attracted to women who are similar to them but are also looking for someone who can create an equilibrium.

So, if the guy you are attracted to is an introvert it may be your best strategy to act like the extrovert person he wishes he could be.  You will subconsciously be sending him the message “I’ve got what you need”. 

He will feel attracted to you because you provide the missing piece and make him “whole” which will force him to imagine you two as a couple.

The Equity Theory

The Equity Theory

How to Text a Guy

You’re tired of waiting for a guy to make the first move?  We live in the 21st century, and there's no rule which says you can't text first.  But, how to text a guy and seem fun, interesting, and awesome?  Believe it or not, it’s super easy to learn how to text a guy you like, and these tips and tricks can help you out.

Be confident.  First things first, you need to be confident and let that confidence show in the text you send. 

Most guys think that bold girls are sexy and attractive, so you don't really need to "hide" your confidence when texting.

You can even start by sending a compliment about a shirt he wore last time you saw him (even if you've completely forgot how it looked).

Just realize that you're awesome and you don't really need to be nervous when texting a guy.

How to Text a Guy

Learn How to Text a Guy

Don’t text “Hi” only.  If you want to learn how to make him obsessed with you through text, then you need to bear in mind that you should never start texting a guy by sending "Hi" only.  While it may be the easiest way to start a conversation it doesn't showcase your confidence and it's just lazy. 

Be creative. Wish him a good morning, ask whether he slept well, pretend you forgot to watch the latest episode of the TV show he also happens to watch.  Your options are really endless.

Ask him questions.  Probably the easiest way to get a guy to keep texting you is to ask him questions.  These questions can be random, about his day, but they can also be more specific and fun like flirty messages.  Remember, guys love brave girls who know how to flirt but still keep things serious when necessary.

Have a purpose with each text conversation.  Be flirty, but avoid making your conversation about hot messages and flirty texts only.  Wait for him to reply before you text again (don't seem too eager) and never ever text like a teen;  be witty not silly.  Lastly, send a photo occasionally just to remind him what he's missing - a picture is worth a thousand text characters.

Bottom line...  Learning how to text a guy is easy.  Just be confident, let your confidence show, and also make sure he knows you’re witty and smart.  Don’t pretend to be someone you not, the goal is to impress him with who you really are.

Final Tip:

Don't always respond immediately, you have a life, and he should know it.

Can You Really Make a Man Obsessed With You?

These psychological triggers can help you get noticed and may help you get into the mind of the guy you would like to become close to.  This initial stage of attraction is always the most difficult phase to overcome.

Once you have got past this level of closeness you can reveal your more genuine traits. If he likes the real you, warts and all, then you can enjoy an even more profound level of attraction and even the deepest of loving relationships – you may even make a man obsessed with you!

Womens' Dating Advice Writer

Ana Smith - Dating Advice Writer

Ana is an expert relationship adviser with a proven record of helping thousands of women find a loving partner.  About herself she says "I'm passionate about two things; helping women find happiness and chocolate".  

She has been a full-time, professional relationship expert, writer, and author for over four years. 

Her own lessons in love qualify her to give the best dating advice on the internet.  Still single, she's enjoying the dating game.  When Ana isn't working she likes reading, social networking and listening (and singing along) to music.  Ana is based in San Antonio, Texas.

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